Positions & Cues

We begin this module with a quick revisit of positioning yourself and your baby for massage and a reminder that it is important that your baby is in the right ‘mood’. When your baby is in the ‘quiet-alert’ state they will be more responsive and happy to receive touch and stimulation.

  • Hungry
  • Just been fed – their body needs to digest
  • Tired
  • Unsettled
  • Unwell
  • Have just received a vaccination

Often making massage part of a routine. like bath time, can help. Here I am massaging my second son in 2003 on the change table after his bath. He’s definitely in the ‘quiet-alert’ state.

Along with liking routine, babies are very quick to pick up on cues. In this module I suggest three simple cues, they can be done in any order or you may come up with your own in addition to asking if they would like a massage.

It may seem a little odd that you are going to ask your baby or toddler if they would like a massage. You are actually teaching them some boundaries around touch, that their consent is needed and that you respect them. Before they can speak you may see signs of engagement or dis-engagement that tell you whether or not they want a massage. Check out more information on how to read your baby with the ‘Infant Cues’ below the video.

Massage provides an opportunity as they get older to talk about appropriate touch, what’s okay and what is not.

At no time during massage should your baby’s genitals be touched or stroked. Your hand may brush past a boy’s penis as you massage the leg, or your hands come close when doing the tummy routine, but there is no intent to touch.

  • Watch the video (3 min)
  • Review the ‘Infant Cues’ and share with your partner
  • Reach out if you have any questions below